Tag: mental health

Mid January… the time year when the world slows down… resolutions start to wane… idealistic thoughts are tugs in the wee hours of the night.  Are you Stuck? Not feeling like engaging? Settling in for the winter? Tucking your toes under a blanket and snuggling down? Or are you the type to push on through? Head down, chin tucked in, mission face on?

Know you are not alone.

 

In the Northern Hemisphere, mid January is like that morning after too much wine and laughter … enthusiastic but with limits! January….the month of “shoulds”. Or like a colleague of mine says…. “should’ng all over yourself!”

Ahhh… the ‘should’ I get to the gym? ‘Should’ I do a detox weekend? ‘Should’ I de-clutter? ‘Should’ I get those files done? ‘Should’ I reach out?

 

Or do you have an energetic friend who seems to have a skip to their step… even when its gray outside! Ha. We all have one! Do they bring on guilt … nervous laughter… perhaps thoughts of hidden discourse. Or do you jump on their bandwagon? Do a few things then look as your gas gauge signals your tank is on fumes?

 

How do you over come this??? Clear away that brain fog? Pull up your own toboggan and wiz down a hill? Skirt away that body hangover from sneaking some left over somewhat dried out holiday cookies… Tackle those reports or files you just don’t want to open???

 

This is where someone like me comes in… Stage left… A professional coach confidently enters the space.

We are the fog lifters. The doubt shifters. The ones who are here to guide you, even from fog that travels as fast and thick as a scene from the Hunger Games.  But how does a coach do it?

 

How does coaching work to lift this fog?

Simple…we elucidate together (and yes, its totally ok to look up the word elucidate means).

 

With a coach by your side: First we decide what is most pressing and causing you to feel stuck? (And here’s a hint… its very rarely what comes first to your mind).

Then we decide what your optimal outcome would be. 

Visualize it. Feel it. Speak it. Give it a name, A strategy; Map out your speed-bumps.. then decide…How will I feel when I get there?

What will it mean to You…. for you to reach your outcome?

The key is emotional waterlines.  What is making you feel stuck? What do you truly want? What is getting in your way?

Then the big question: What are you giving up by being stuck? 

We will create a safe space for exploration. For decision making. For thought generation. For outcomes to be germinated.

Professional coaches… well, we are fog lifters and your guide along the way.

Understanding our aging body is a tough challenge that many women face.

We notice an extra wrinkle while brushing our teeth. Our favourite jacket/shirt seems tighter around our mid-section. A single glass of wine has you waking in the middle of the night sweating… you know the routine….  throw off a blanket, then grab it a few moments later when the late night chill seeps in.

Our bodies feel alien to us.

Eating habits that once worked seem to only cause extra weight gain, while you notice a new ache first thing in the morning; Forget about that unflinching  desire to rip someone’s head off because they cried at comment that seemed benign or chewed their food loudly. It all makes us wonder if we are going crazy.

Damn…our body doesn’t behave like it used to.  What do I do?

First breathe. Then breathe again because that last breath probably pissed you off!

We can’t stop the change but we can learn from it. We can adapt to it.

No…. you aren’t too old to change. That’s a mantra from the 1950’s.

Change is upon you, and you are either going to roll with it or fight it, but either way, its going to happen. Understanding that a woman’s body ages in a beautiful way. Its ok to adapt to those changes, but lets work together to adapt in a way that helps you. Its ok to look at new diet regimes, to get a shot of botox if you want, to eat more, eat less, eat a bloody piece of chocolate cake. What matters is how you feel about it and what your goals are.

When I turned 50, I decided that I wanted to be a fit mom, a sexy woman (after years of ignoring my femininity), healthy, mentally happy, loved and a lover. It wasn’t something that happened overnight but it was something I worked at and continue to work at. Its a goal. Its a lifestyle. Its a choice.

What isn’t ok is to ignore that your body change is happening. No creams, potions, new diets, affirmations, or endless scrolling of the internet is going to stop these changes.

Let’s work together so you can accept the changes. Get curious. Start to understand it.  Put on that wonderwoman cape and be brave. Be honest with yourself. Decide what you want to change. What makes you smile in the morning. What do you like? Is it your confidence to say no? Is it that you no longer sweat the small stuff?  What is reasonable for you?

Then lets take that first step. Hold your head high and know that you will be ok. You will age.  Aging is a new adventure made just for you.

Now decide what aging looks like to you…and go after it!